046 Learn to not be STUCK on the stumbles | Bryan Falchuk

Do we allow ourselves to be reactionary and just respond to the choices that others are making or are we taking a moment to pause, breathe and look at a situation and decide what is the wisest thing we can do
— Bryan Falchuk -

What a joy to speak to Bryan Falchuk; executive, coach and author of Do a Day, who has taken his hard-won philosophy of life and turned it into a way of being. We explore how the mind and the power of choice can be used for good in our desire to let go of stress. His vulnerable sharing of his turning point to find his true motivation will have you feeling it truly is worth the level of introspection to change your own life for good.

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Bryan Falchuk

We spoke about 

  • Emotional distress as a child

  • Early indicators of the impacts of stress

  • Changing how we view stress

  • The choices that we make within ourselves

  • What it means to be intelligent rational beings

  • Moving from rumination to a solution

  • Learn not to be stuck on the stumbles

  • Tools for staying on path

  • Bryan’s book Do a Day

  • Finding your true motivation

  • Your purpose pointed in a direction

Value Quotes 

“It’s not all bad. I certainly gained a number of points of independence through that stress. I grew, I rely on myself really well. I’ve always been able to rely on myself to take care of myself”

“I do feel like if you really look at someone I think you can see that there’s hurt there and you can see that there is stress.  It’s ok to open up about that and be vulnerable”

“The way that we feel about things is our own choice”

“Do we take the stress as a signal to us that hang on maybe something is not right?”

“Exercise is a positive stress on your body, you grow from stressing your muscles”

“Most people don’t take the time to get really introspective and learn about themselves in a challenging way”

“Do we allow ourselves to be reactionary and just respond to the choices that others are making or are we taking a moment to pause, breathe and look at a situation and decide what is the wisest thing we can do”

“Instead of taking a tough situation and reframing it we stew on it and we let the negativity of it expand through rumination”

“Instead of beating yourself up for what’s already happened or living in fear of what is to come we focus on just the right now”

“Sometimes when we expose who we are it allows people to have a more human connection with us”

“You must know why you do things” 

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Episode Links 

You can find Bryan Falchuk at:

Website:  http://www.doadaybook.com

Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/doadaybook 

Here is Bryan's free exercise to help find your Why: http://www.doadaybook.com/theexercise

Bryan's TEDx talk 

 

045 Be a power girl with vulnerability | Sarah Wade

You’ve got to learn quickly how to prioritise and to let things wait. Some days you can’t do it and you say no and it will wait until tomorrow
— Sarah Wade -

It seems almost impossible that two years ago Sarah Wade was unable to speak and walk yet she takes a risk in being a podcast guest with me which is so amazing. Her story is one of courage, fierceness and vulnerability that is filled with lessons for those of us who don’t take time to smell the roses in our lives.  Sarah shares how she is prioritising her self care, people who she values and doing things in a contented way.

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Sarah Wade

We spoke about 

  • From the corporate world to a water view Cosy Home store

  • Sarah’s life-threatening medical emergency on 1 July 2015

  • The impact of work and emotional stress on Sarah’s wellbeing

  • A complete shift to Sarah’s world as she knew it

  • The journey of rehabilitation

  • Lessons along the way and doing things in a contented way

  • Creating a haven and sanctuary for customers at the Cosy Home store

  • Taking care of yourself is not selfish

Value Quotes 

“If I think about it every day now I wake up to my dream in action”

”I spent just over 35 years in the corporate world where they owned me, now I own me”

“It’s nice to wake up every morning and do something that I want to do”

“I looked around in the hospital and saw other women taking their first steps and I knew at that point that I had a job to do”

“When I look back on when I was in the corporate world, it was too hard to continue doing”

“I’m still finding the right mindset to feel confident every day to talk”

“Sometimes you’ve got to break the rules to get through things I guess”

“In order to support your mental health, your spiritual health, you have to eat well no denying that and it has to be every day”

“Every day you’ve got to be taking the time and ensuring you are important and what you want to achieve”

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Until next time fabulous podcast listener, I’m Bev and I invite you to live the fab life with me now! 

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Episode Links 

You can find Sarah Wade at:

Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/cosyhomeettalongbeach/

Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/cosyhomeettalongbeach/

044 The secrets to more time | Tom Evans

I noticed on days that I meditated I had a much better day and the world seemed to be kinder to me. On days I didn’t, I felt it was like pushing water uphill
— Tom Evans -

Many people talk about the value of meditation yet Tom Evans adds so much more to the conversation by focusing on the investment of even 10 minutes a day to achieve practical outcomes. Tom provides meditations for many and varied topics like weight management, relaxation, boosting creativity and avoiding jet lag. We touch on Tom’s concept of managing time mindfully to be more effective and create better outcomes for ourselves by not being enslaved by our relationship to time

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Tom Evans

We spoke about 

  • How a BBC engineer became a spiritual engineer of mind, body and spirit

  • Discovering practical mindfulness

  • Making meditation playful and accessible

  • Investing time for practical outcomes

  • Scale of effects from 10 minutes of daily meditation

  • Where to begin with meditation

  • Tom’s two main applications of meditation

  • Switching on new super sensibilities

  • Reaping the benefits of meditation

  • Tom’s course Mindfulness Based Time Management

  • Seeing life as a joy

Value Quotes 

“I started meditating like many people to reduce stress and anxiety but I very quickly discovered this practical aspect to it”

”I noticed on days that I meditated I had a much better day and the world seemed to be kinder to me. On days I didn’t, I felt it was like pushing water uphill”

“The normal human mind can only have one thought at a time”

“As soon as you start to flip the attention away from the now you lose efficiency and so what mindfulness techniques get you to do is to be present in the now”

“You don’t have to meditate formally with your eyes closed and headphones on. You can meditate just by getting out in nature”

“Every day you’re going to treat yourself to 10 minutes of me time”

“One of the things I’ve noticed about Insight Timer app is that the most popular meditations are those that help people get to sleep”

“To me meditation has two applications. One is remedial where it fixes something… but my main area of work, research and fun is generative meditations that awaken us to new levels of consciousness”

“The main benefit [of meditation] is that you become luckier. Instead of pushing water uphill the world starts to work for you”

“With the quiet mind you get from meditation, that continues out of the meditation throughout the day so you become better at noticing things”

“If you look down it switches the internal dialogue on in the head and if you look slightly up it switches it off”

“See life not as a chore but as a joy”

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Until next time fabulous podcast listener, I’m Bev and I invite you to live the fab life with me now! 

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Episode Links 

You can find Tom Evans at:

Website:  http://www.tomevans.co/  

Insight timer app: https://insighttimer.com/tomevans