026 Act on unproductive anxiety | Kay Lindley

Living fabulously is to think about your approach to life and the links of wellbeing from a physical, mental, spiritual and emotional perspective. To put that all together and be fulfilled to have that authentic life
— Kay Lindley -

Hearing Kay say she lost who she was for a lot of her life made me realise how anxiety can rob you of your very essence. When someone is dealing with anxiety issues it can be easy to say ‘stop worrying’. However anxiety is a persistent pattern that the mind is locked into about something that may or may not happen in the future. Kay is a compassionate and insightful coach who is making a lasting difference to her clients and shares from a place of wisdom having conquered her own anxiety.

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Kay

We spoke about 

  • Kay’s passion for helping people become unflappable

  • The impact of Kay suppressing a traumatic event and her way out of disabling anxiety

  • The spectrum of anxiety

  • Retaining the positive purpose of anxiety while letting go of unproductive anxiety

  • Challenges for someone dealing with anxiety

  • Side effects for people dealing with anxiety

  • Ways people can tackle their anxiety

  • The value of using truisms and belly breath to calm the body

  • Taking the best life lesson from a difficult situation or event

  • A focus on what you can do and not what you can’t do

Value Quotes 

“He really taught me to find the resources I needed to get back to normality”

“Know that when you are in an anxious state for long periods of time the front lobes of the brain are not working as they should”

“Like many people in that state, they don’t necessarily speak up and look for help, they just shrink their lives almost nothing”

“To get somewhere you have to spend more time in what you do want rather than what you don’t want”

“Anxiety is about something that hasn’t happened yet so it is a future kind of state”

“That anxious part of people wants to know about certainty but they don’t have certainty so they worry and get anxious”

“It could be something that happened in the past that is still there and morphs itself into other facets of their life for the future”

“It shows how creative the mind is for it to be able to think of all those things that could happen but might not”

“You might develop a fear of the feelings itself that it brings upon you, so an anxiety attack rather than the initial worry”

“You can help someone build a really strong metaphor that they could anchor and it might be a suit of armour or something that they want and can really embrace that can be triggered”

“There’s a lot of options to pretend in your head that you are doing it the way you would like to do it rather than the way you fear you might do it”

“If she can keep herself in the present then the anxiety doesn’t take hold”

“We know that the things that we think, our body posture, our breath are all interrelated and all of those things create the behaviour that comes out or the outcome”

“Wellbeing is an assistant to living longer and living a more fully functioning life”

“When you get them passed the anxiety you get more self-love, more creativity, more of their ability to give love and be who they really are”

“Living fabulously is to think about your approach to life and the links of wellbeing from a physical, mental, spiritual and emotional perspective. To put that all together and be fulfilled to have that authentic life”

“Have your best life. Focus on what you can do and not what you can’t do”

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Until next time fabulous podcast listener, I’m Bev and I invite you to live the fab life with me now!

Episode Links 

You can find Kay Lindley at:

Website: http://mindandbodyconsultancy.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mindandbodyconsultancy/

If you experiencing a personal crisis help is available by calling Lifeline Australia on 131114 or find resources at https://www.lifeline.org.au/

Bev