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035 Why is change so hard | Dr Bridget Cooper

I love Living Fabulously. Just saying the name of your work is just exactly what we should all be doing more of. Life’s too short to be doing anything else
— Dr Bridget Cooper -

When your guest describes herself as a cage rattler, change agent, thought shifter, sculptor of human potential you know that the conversation is going to be epic. As an author of 5 books on change, Dr Bridget Cooper is refreshingly candid yet empathetic and pragmatic about our transitions with change. As a change strategist she has had her own transformation and is the subject of her latest book ‘Little Landslides’.

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Dr Bridget Cooper

LiveFab 035 Why is change so hard | Dr Bridget Cooper

We spoke about 

  • Exploring and accepting your story to embrace personal change

  • Pro-active steps to change vs change because of a crisis

  • Being attentive to our 4 core needs each day

  • Alignment of our work as change agents to expand the positive aspects of living

  • Breaking the cycle of negative self-talk

  • Create a new track by choice

  • Bridget’s new book ‘Little Landslides’ about rising up from personal pain

  • Three beautiful tips for living fabulously

Value Quotes 

“Change puts you in a new position to rethink things you’ve always thought even though they weren’t working, you’ve always thought them and there is some comfort in that”

“Looking at the story and recognising and accepting that it got you where you are but it might not or won’t likely get you to where you need to be” [sic]

“Resistance comes from not feeling mastery over where you’re headed”

“Going to sleep may not meet the need for validation or connection so they’re going to go find it before they go to bed which is going to have them lingering on social media for a long time”

“You can change how you feel if you change how you think”

“Shifting the narrative on how we are coming to the conclusions that bring us to be really berating ourselves”

“What we focus our attention on we get more of”

“Receive things in a way that makes us grateful… and those things then help us to focus in those positive, grateful, abundant kind of mindset vs getting stuck in that old tape of ‘I’m not good enough’, ‘I’m not smart enough’, ‘I’m not hard working enough’” 

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Episode Links 

You can find Dr Bridget Cooper at:

Website:  http://drbridgetcooper.com/

Face book: https://www.facebook.com/DrBridgetCooper/

The next live round of Sleeping Fabulously, a 4 week course to transform your sleep starts on Monday, 20 February 2017.

You’ve probably tried a few things to get better sleep but you just can’t turn this around. If you want more good days and you could do with less nights of struggle then this is the course for you. All the details can be found at http://bit.ly/sleepfabulously

You can also download my FREE Guided Relaxation for Restorative Sleep at http://bit.ly/GuidedRelaxation  

 

030 Knowing how to resolve conflict is good for you | Glyn Conlon

I like when I can say that I can move on now. I’ve dealt with it instead of distracting or going around the issue to revisit it later on
— Glyn Conlon -

We all know what it feels like to have a prickly conversation or not feel heard. Glyn Conlyn is a highly experienced coach and trainer who specialises in non-violent or compassionate communication.  She promotes communicating simply and easily to allow others to more clearly hear our communication.  Glyn works to build understanding in relationships between friends, couples, families, in the workplace and with partners in business. 

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Glyn

Glyn Conlon

We spoke about 

  • The role of a certified non-violent communication trainer

  • The impact of conflict and not being heard from the playground to the workplace

  • Ideas on allowing for time to speak with truth

  • What compassionate vs violent communication are

  • The benefits of compassionate communication for self and others

  • Why knowing how to resolve conflict is good for you

  • Improving your overall ability to resolve disputes

  • The 4 step process Glyn teaches for compassionate communication

  • Your attention and intention in the moment

  • Getting oneself out of a downward spiral in 5 key steps

  • Glyn’s many tips for living fabulously

Value Quotes 

“I’m really careful about telling the truth with care which is different to out and out honesty.”

“What I’ve realised with compassionate communication is that you don’t need to have the quantity of time but you need to know how to access the quality of communication”

“You make a time to put effort into your relationship”

“Everyone is acting from trying to meet a need”

“Personal power, confidence and competence is within everyone’s reach”

“It allows to you understand yourself without judgement and to understand others without needing to agree”

“I like when I can say that I can move on now. I’ve dealt with it instead of distracting or going around the issue to revisit it later on”

“It’s amazing that it’s possible to correct what led to the problem in the first place and prevent future conflicts by doing this”

“If you have that intention to connect that’s really important”

“Surround yourself with others that listen deeply and are not morally judging your thoughts and actions”

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Until next time fabulous podcast listener, I’m Bev and I invite you to live the fab life with me now!

Episode Links 

You can find Glyn Conlon at:

Website: www.keystoneskills.com.au

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nvciskey/