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030 Knowing how to resolve conflict is good for you | Glyn Conlon

I like when I can say that I can move on now. I’ve dealt with it instead of distracting or going around the issue to revisit it later on
— Glyn Conlon -

We all know what it feels like to have a prickly conversation or not feel heard. Glyn Conlyn is a highly experienced coach and trainer who specialises in non-violent or compassionate communication.  She promotes communicating simply and easily to allow others to more clearly hear our communication.  Glyn works to build understanding in relationships between friends, couples, families, in the workplace and with partners in business. 

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Glyn

Glyn Conlon

We spoke about 

  • The role of a certified non-violent communication trainer

  • The impact of conflict and not being heard from the playground to the workplace

  • Ideas on allowing for time to speak with truth

  • What compassionate vs violent communication are

  • The benefits of compassionate communication for self and others

  • Why knowing how to resolve conflict is good for you

  • Improving your overall ability to resolve disputes

  • The 4 step process Glyn teaches for compassionate communication

  • Your attention and intention in the moment

  • Getting oneself out of a downward spiral in 5 key steps

  • Glyn’s many tips for living fabulously

Value Quotes 

“I’m really careful about telling the truth with care which is different to out and out honesty.”

“What I’ve realised with compassionate communication is that you don’t need to have the quantity of time but you need to know how to access the quality of communication”

“You make a time to put effort into your relationship”

“Everyone is acting from trying to meet a need”

“Personal power, confidence and competence is within everyone’s reach”

“It allows to you understand yourself without judgement and to understand others without needing to agree”

“I like when I can say that I can move on now. I’ve dealt with it instead of distracting or going around the issue to revisit it later on”

“It’s amazing that it’s possible to correct what led to the problem in the first place and prevent future conflicts by doing this”

“If you have that intention to connect that’s really important”

“Surround yourself with others that listen deeply and are not morally judging your thoughts and actions”

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Episode Links 

You can find Glyn Conlon at:

Website: www.keystoneskills.com.au

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nvciskey/

 

025 Transform your stress | Margie Braunstein

You need to be willing to live fabulously. Keep seeking and don’t accept less than living fabulously
— Margie Braunstein -

To open the series on mental health, I spoke with the highly experienced and beautifully pragmatic Margie Braunstein from Heartnicity™ about stress, it’s impact on our lives and health and simple things to do to turn negative stress around. I really love that we spoke science, biology and avoiding stretching ourselves to breaking point with there being no value to soldiering on.

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Margie 

We spoke about 

  • Reducing the overwhelm people are living with

  • The role of personal development and purpose in Margie’s life

  • Background to the term stress and it’s definition

  • The difference between positive / good eustress and negative / bad distress

  • The role of good stress

  • The disservice of soldering on

  • Awareness of the signals you are reaching the tipping point

  • How stress affects people differently

  • The interrelated impact of stress on an overloaded nervous system

  • Building in our “insurance” against stress

  • The physical impact of stress on the body

  • The relationship between stress, poor sleep and how we function

  • The 3 step Heartnicity™ method of awareness, acceptance and action and it’s application

  • Living on a path of heart being constantly aware of moving toward or away from a stressful life

  • Simple practices for managing daily stress

  • The impact of ruminating thoughts and how to manage this more effectively

  • Indulging in loving self-care every day

Value Quotes 

“When people practice relaxation and meditation the nervous system is given a chance to relax a bit”

“There’s nothing better than discovering that there’s more to discover”

“It’s all about actually how to use your heart to have a better life and to manage your feelings better to manage your life better”

“Stress is generally seen as something to be avoided, stretched too far or stretched to breaking point”

“When you reach a limit, you need to replenish yourself”

“In our world we keep getting the message, keep going, soldier on and we go over the tipping point and head over the other side of the hill towards exhaustion and breakdown”

“We need to give our nervous system as much rest and support to come back to a relaxed state as often as we can throughout our day, our week, our life”

“Between our comfort zone and the tipping point there’s a sweet spot that’s very joyful and vitalising”

“Too much inflammation in the blood especially by cortisol is really seen as underpinning most disease processes”

“When you are stressed your amygdala becomes hyper vigilant to anything that could be dangerous even sleep”

“Becoming aware of how you think and feel. Once you become aware then you can make different choices. You can transform the way you see the world.”

“If you resist people or situations they don’t actually go away. But by resisting it you give more of your attention to it and it becomes this vicious cycle”

“Once you let go of resistance you kind of liberate yourself, body, mind and spirit”

“Moving away from the victim mentality and then you move into a kind of state of heightened personal power”

“When you act from a place of personal meaning it activates all the chemicals in our body that are really good for us”

“Consult your heart not just your mind when you make decisions”

“Feelings come and go, thoughts come and go, but I remain stable”

“You don’t want to believe everything you think. Most of it is delusional”

“There’s no thought without a feeling.  They are parallel, they always there together”

“Bad stress really underlies so many of the problems we have in our world and so I really want people to transform stress”

“Once you start to give your body a little bit more support, the nervous system more support to relax you actually find you start to have more energy for life and relationships”

“You need to be willing to live fabulously. Keep seeking and don’t accept less than living fabulously”

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Until next time fabulous podcast listener, I’m Bev and I invite you to live the fab life with me now!

Episode Links 

You can find Margie Braunstein at:

Website: www.heartnicity.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Heartnicity/

The path of heart exercise can be downloaded here

If you experiencing a personal crisis help is available by calling Lifeline Australia on 131114 or find resources at https://www.lifeline.org.au/

024 Find your bliss and magic | Emma and Carla Papas

Living fabulously is about following the joy and the fun, so take note of actually what brings you happiness each day and do more of that
— The Merrymaker sisters -

The fabulous Merrymaker sisters, Emma and Carla Papas are such a buzz without the caffeine!  What a joy to have an open and meaningful conversation about their own wellbeing journeys and what following their bliss has meant for them.  I love how infectious their zest for life is and how they are so aligned and walking their talk yet keeping it real by keeping things simple.

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Emma and Carla, the Merrymaker sisters 

The Merrymaker sisters

We spoke about 

  • Why and how the Merrymaker sisters help others to live a healthier, happier more magic filled life
  • How body image issues and constant dieting can transform through focus on a real food lifestyle
  • How the magic in our lives comes from the little things
  • Building awareness of how you can make changes to your day and attitude
  • Creating a toolbox of things to draw on
  • Simple changes to improve your wellbeing
  • Factoring in your workplace and relationships as part of your wellbeing
  • Figuring out and following your bliss even in your everyday activities
  • Motivators that keep us inspired and growing
  • Prioritising your health when you’re really busy or travelling
  • Connecting your health actions to your values and scheduling them in your calendar
  • Benefits of adding more fun and gratitude to your day 

Value Quotes 

“Sharing that journey with other people allows them to connect and know that are not alone:

“Society puts on these little goals for you. Like you know find the boyfriend, find the husband and have the kids, buy the house…that sucks out the magic of everything”

“It’s like this whole “should be” life. This is what you’re supposed to be doing”

“The magic comes from the little things”

“We owe it to ourselves and we owe it to the world to just live and fulfil our lives 100%”

“If we don’t make a change, it just stays the same”

“Knowing I can choose to change that if I do feel negative”

“Create your own toolbox of things, mantras, actions that help pull you out of those situations”

“Gratitude is the biggest game changer in the whole wide world”

“When you feel something is a bit off, getting in tune with yourself and taking action. There is so much power in that”

“There might be a reason to why you are feeling a certain way and the only way you’re going to figure it out is if you go on this self-discovery which you might need to hire help to do that with”

“It’s about one small step after small step. You don’t have to do it all at once”

“If you’re surrounded by negative toxic people that will impact your health”

“Being surrounded by like-minded people can re-ignite passion and change so much”

“If you don’t have those positive relationships go and find them”

“Your day will get more magical if you add more fun, if you add more of that joy”

“Find what you really love doing and open yourself up to the possibility as well”

“Breaking down how you get to a goal and enjoying that process”

“It’s also being ok with not being motivated all the time”

“Scheduling health actions in my calendar helps to remember to do it and it keep’s me accountable”

“You never leave a workout thinking ‘man I wish I didn’t do that’”

“Living fabulously is about following the joy and the fun, so take note of actually what brings you happiness each day and do more of that”

“Gratitude is fabulous so note 3 things you are grateful for each and every single day”

If you got value from this episode if you have not yet done so please Subscribe, Rate and Review on iTunes or Stitcher. You can follow the instructions here.  If you know someone else that would get value from this episode as well please share it with them.

Until next time fabulous podcast listener, I’m Bev and I invite you to live the fab life with me now! 

Episode Links 

You can find Emma and Carla, the Merrymaker sisters at:

Website: http://themerrymakersisters.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/themerrymakersisters

“We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us” - Joseph Campbell

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