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062 The freedom of choice | Claire Ashman

Because I feel like I missed out on so much, I attack everything with enthusiasm and gusto
— Claire Ashman -

Never before have I met someone who wants to live life to the full like Claire Ashman. It all makes sense when you discover that she is a cult survivor, of not one but two cults in Australia. Her attitude is one of life being an experiment and she is not willing to waste any opportunity. Discussing her resilience and tenacity in a world she knew nothing about is uplifting. It will make you rethink the freedom you have and the power of your choice.

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Claire Ashman

We spoke about

  • Claire's journey as a cult survivor

  • Resilience and determination

  • Making sense of new found freedom

  • What a full life looks like now

  • The freedom of choice and using it wisely

  • Two simple yet profound questions

  • Claire's tips for Living Fabulously

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035 Why is change so hard | Dr Bridget Cooper

I love Living Fabulously. Just saying the name of your work is just exactly what we should all be doing more of. Life’s too short to be doing anything else
— Dr Bridget Cooper -

When your guest describes herself as a cage rattler, change agent, thought shifter, sculptor of human potential you know that the conversation is going to be epic. As an author of 5 books on change, Dr Bridget Cooper is refreshingly candid yet empathetic and pragmatic about our transitions with change. As a change strategist she has had her own transformation and is the subject of her latest book ‘Little Landslides’.

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Dr Bridget Cooper

LiveFab 035 Why is change so hard | Dr Bridget Cooper

We spoke about 

  • Exploring and accepting your story to embrace personal change

  • Pro-active steps to change vs change because of a crisis

  • Being attentive to our 4 core needs each day

  • Alignment of our work as change agents to expand the positive aspects of living

  • Breaking the cycle of negative self-talk

  • Create a new track by choice

  • Bridget’s new book ‘Little Landslides’ about rising up from personal pain

  • Three beautiful tips for living fabulously

Value Quotes 

“Change puts you in a new position to rethink things you’ve always thought even though they weren’t working, you’ve always thought them and there is some comfort in that”

“Looking at the story and recognising and accepting that it got you where you are but it might not or won’t likely get you to where you need to be” [sic]

“Resistance comes from not feeling mastery over where you’re headed”

“Going to sleep may not meet the need for validation or connection so they’re going to go find it before they go to bed which is going to have them lingering on social media for a long time”

“You can change how you feel if you change how you think”

“Shifting the narrative on how we are coming to the conclusions that bring us to be really berating ourselves”

“What we focus our attention on we get more of”

“Receive things in a way that makes us grateful… and those things then help us to focus in those positive, grateful, abundant kind of mindset vs getting stuck in that old tape of ‘I’m not good enough’, ‘I’m not smart enough’, ‘I’m not hard working enough’” 

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Episode Links 

You can find Dr Bridget Cooper at:

Website:  http://drbridgetcooper.com/

Face book: https://www.facebook.com/DrBridgetCooper/

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033 Exercise deliberate choice | Debbi Carberry

The story we tell women I think is really sad right now which is ‘you can have everything’. I think that’s cruel… because with that comes a massive burden
— Debbi Carberry -

A roller coaster of a story where Debbi learned so many lessons from her son who defied the medical prognosis given at a routine 18 week pregnancy scan.  I love Debbi’s philosophy that life gives you what you need and even though it can be a rough road, for me it is a metaphor of tumbling stones to get to the diamond.  Debbi shares amazing insights into human connection and our ability to change our hard wiring laid down in early childhood.

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Debbi

033 Exercise deliberate choice Debbi Carberry

We spoke about 

  • A life changing decision

  • Dealing with an unsolvable challenge

  • Making a choice to let go of fear

  • Learning that we are not in control

  • The value of an optimistic outlook

  • Being the queen of self-care or being selfish?

  • The myth of having it all and being all

  • The joy of being a fearless 20 year old

  • Connection and the neuroplasticity of the brain

  • Exercising deliberate choice

  • Retraining your brain around sleep

Value Quotes 

“I have a philosophy that life gives you what you need”

“I would attack my life with fervour. It would be just like pumping through things and he kind of brought me to my knees”

“It was a rollercoaster ride where I would just get so incredibly fearful. So I lived in fear for about 6 – 8 years thinking is today the day”

“You need to stop it. You made a decision to let him live, you chose that. You need to let him live…”

“It wasn’t an option to fall in a heap on the floor. It just wasn’t an option. I was a single parent”

“I couldn’t be self-indulgent I needed to go ok what has to happen today and I think that helped me to get through that really difficult first 4 years”

“I’ve sacrificed a lot over the years and now it’s my turn and I’m loving it”

“If we do not take care of ourselves. If we are not happy then what are we giving to the people around us?”

“The story we tell women I think is really sad right now which is ‘you can have everything’. I think that’s cruel… because with that comes a massive burden”

“Looking back at my 20 year old self I grin from ear to ear because she was so fearless and so courageous and probably extraordinarily naïve”

“There’s this very interesting dance that goes on where we learn how to get our needs met and we knew that from mums and babies… this is a kind of blueprint for how we do all our relationships into adulthood”

“What we do repeatedly becomes an automated pattern of behaviour so what we need to do is when we struggle in this is not to go down that well-worn path”

“What’s the pay-off of not sleeping? That’s the first question I would ask”

“If your brain is just noisy what are you doing to download that data?”

“Don’t be complacent. Grab onto every opportunity that comes your way”

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Until next time fabulous podcast listener, I’m Bev and I invite you to live the fab life with me now!

Episode Links  

You can find Debbi Carberry at:

Website:  https://debbicarberry.com.au/

Face book: https://www.facebook.com/DebbiCarberryCounselling/

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