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062 The freedom of choice | Claire Ashman

Because I feel like I missed out on so much, I attack everything with enthusiasm and gusto
— Claire Ashman -

Never before have I met someone who wants to live life to the full like Claire Ashman. It all makes sense when you discover that she is a cult survivor, of not one but two cults in Australia. Her attitude is one of life being an experiment and she is not willing to waste any opportunity. Discussing her resilience and tenacity in a world she knew nothing about is uplifting. It will make you rethink the freedom you have and the power of your choice.

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Claire Ashman

We spoke about

  • Claire's journey as a cult survivor

  • Resilience and determination

  • Making sense of new found freedom

  • What a full life looks like now

  • The freedom of choice and using it wisely

  • Two simple yet profound questions

  • Claire's tips for Living Fabulously

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060 Is your pilot light always on | Dr David James

Rather than have an on off switch if you would with stress and anxiety…they’re much more like a pilot light on a hot water heater, they’re just constantly going and people are constantly in a state of low grade anxiety
— Dr David James -

Given how prevalent stress and anxiety is today, I was curious about how anxiety could be treated with hypnotherapy in a lasting way. I had the opportunity to speak with Dr David James, licensed therapist, author and speaker who has a passion to see his clients make amazing life changes. David has real life experience of stress having been a police officer in Los Angeles so his perspective on how we can transform our relationship to stress is beyond purely an academic one.

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Dr David James

Note: Apologies for the clicking sound from my guests microphone

We spoke about 

  • David’s journey of discovery

  • Stress and the impact on our body and creativity

  • Changing our response to stress

  • Differences between talk therapy and hypnotherapy

  • Retraining the nervous system

  • Changing our view of stress

  • Making an ally of stress

  • David’s book ‘Discovering your magnificent mind’

  • The value of understanding the power of your mind

Value Quotes 

“Rather than have an on off switch if you would with stress and anxiety… they’re much more like a pilot light on a hot water heater, they’re just constantly going and people are constantly in a state of low grade anxiety”

“For many people what is really helpful is to simply relax and that sounds too good to be true”

“As a hypnotherapist I am a sub-conscious behaviourist”

“The biological purpose of the anxiety mechanism of stress is to alert us, to warn us and so we can make an ally of that”

“Become best friends with your breath and your attention”

“It is a matter of training your mind and your body to work in unison to bring the changes and the kind of relaxation you need”

“Whatever the mind creates it can recreate”

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Episode Links 

You can find Dr David James at:

Website: www.drdavidjameshypnosis.com

David’s book: https://www.amazon.com/Discovering-Your-Magnificent-David-James/dp/1504374649/

Do you find yourself in the tug-o-war mindset of “I want something sweet”? Take this FREE quiz with steps to reclaim your shape and get back your va-va-va-voom! Head to www.livingfabulously.com/hello-vitality

Dr David James on Living Fabulously with Bev
Dr David James on Living Fabulously with Bev
Dr David James on Living Fabulously with Bev

046 Learn to not be STUCK on the stumbles | Bryan Falchuk

Do we allow ourselves to be reactionary and just respond to the choices that others are making or are we taking a moment to pause, breathe and look at a situation and decide what is the wisest thing we can do
— Bryan Falchuk -

What a joy to speak to Bryan Falchuk; executive, coach and author of Do a Day, who has taken his hard-won philosophy of life and turned it into a way of being. We explore how the mind and the power of choice can be used for good in our desire to let go of stress. His vulnerable sharing of his turning point to find his true motivation will have you feeling it truly is worth the level of introspection to change your own life for good.

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Bryan Falchuk

We spoke about 

  • Emotional distress as a child

  • Early indicators of the impacts of stress

  • Changing how we view stress

  • The choices that we make within ourselves

  • What it means to be intelligent rational beings

  • Moving from rumination to a solution

  • Learn not to be stuck on the stumbles

  • Tools for staying on path

  • Bryan’s book Do a Day

  • Finding your true motivation

  • Your purpose pointed in a direction

Value Quotes 

“It’s not all bad. I certainly gained a number of points of independence through that stress. I grew, I rely on myself really well. I’ve always been able to rely on myself to take care of myself”

“I do feel like if you really look at someone I think you can see that there’s hurt there and you can see that there is stress.  It’s ok to open up about that and be vulnerable”

“The way that we feel about things is our own choice”

“Do we take the stress as a signal to us that hang on maybe something is not right?”

“Exercise is a positive stress on your body, you grow from stressing your muscles”

“Most people don’t take the time to get really introspective and learn about themselves in a challenging way”

“Do we allow ourselves to be reactionary and just respond to the choices that others are making or are we taking a moment to pause, breathe and look at a situation and decide what is the wisest thing we can do”

“Instead of taking a tough situation and reframing it we stew on it and we let the negativity of it expand through rumination”

“Instead of beating yourself up for what’s already happened or living in fear of what is to come we focus on just the right now”

“Sometimes when we expose who we are it allows people to have a more human connection with us”

“You must know why you do things” 

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Until next time fabulous podcast listener, I’m Bev and I invite you to live the fab life with me now! 

Bryan Falchuk on Living Fabulously with Bev Q2

Episode Links 

You can find Bryan Falchuk at:

Website:  http://www.doadaybook.com

Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/doadaybook 

Here is Bryan's free exercise to help find your Why: http://www.doadaybook.com/theexercise

Bryan's TEDx talk