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025 Transform your stress | Margie Braunstein

You need to be willing to live fabulously. Keep seeking and don’t accept less than living fabulously
— Margie Braunstein -

To open the series on mental health, I spoke with the highly experienced and beautifully pragmatic Margie Braunstein from Heartnicity™ about stress, it’s impact on our lives and health and simple things to do to turn negative stress around. I really love that we spoke science, biology and avoiding stretching ourselves to breaking point with there being no value to soldiering on.

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Margie 

We spoke about 

  • Reducing the overwhelm people are living with

  • The role of personal development and purpose in Margie’s life

  • Background to the term stress and it’s definition

  • The difference between positive / good eustress and negative / bad distress

  • The role of good stress

  • The disservice of soldering on

  • Awareness of the signals you are reaching the tipping point

  • How stress affects people differently

  • The interrelated impact of stress on an overloaded nervous system

  • Building in our “insurance” against stress

  • The physical impact of stress on the body

  • The relationship between stress, poor sleep and how we function

  • The 3 step Heartnicity™ method of awareness, acceptance and action and it’s application

  • Living on a path of heart being constantly aware of moving toward or away from a stressful life

  • Simple practices for managing daily stress

  • The impact of ruminating thoughts and how to manage this more effectively

  • Indulging in loving self-care every day

Value Quotes 

“When people practice relaxation and meditation the nervous system is given a chance to relax a bit”

“There’s nothing better than discovering that there’s more to discover”

“It’s all about actually how to use your heart to have a better life and to manage your feelings better to manage your life better”

“Stress is generally seen as something to be avoided, stretched too far or stretched to breaking point”

“When you reach a limit, you need to replenish yourself”

“In our world we keep getting the message, keep going, soldier on and we go over the tipping point and head over the other side of the hill towards exhaustion and breakdown”

“We need to give our nervous system as much rest and support to come back to a relaxed state as often as we can throughout our day, our week, our life”

“Between our comfort zone and the tipping point there’s a sweet spot that’s very joyful and vitalising”

“Too much inflammation in the blood especially by cortisol is really seen as underpinning most disease processes”

“When you are stressed your amygdala becomes hyper vigilant to anything that could be dangerous even sleep”

“Becoming aware of how you think and feel. Once you become aware then you can make different choices. You can transform the way you see the world.”

“If you resist people or situations they don’t actually go away. But by resisting it you give more of your attention to it and it becomes this vicious cycle”

“Once you let go of resistance you kind of liberate yourself, body, mind and spirit”

“Moving away from the victim mentality and then you move into a kind of state of heightened personal power”

“When you act from a place of personal meaning it activates all the chemicals in our body that are really good for us”

“Consult your heart not just your mind when you make decisions”

“Feelings come and go, thoughts come and go, but I remain stable”

“You don’t want to believe everything you think. Most of it is delusional”

“There’s no thought without a feeling.  They are parallel, they always there together”

“Bad stress really underlies so many of the problems we have in our world and so I really want people to transform stress”

“Once you start to give your body a little bit more support, the nervous system more support to relax you actually find you start to have more energy for life and relationships”

“You need to be willing to live fabulously. Keep seeking and don’t accept less than living fabulously”

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Until next time fabulous podcast listener, I’m Bev and I invite you to live the fab life with me now!

Episode Links 

You can find Margie Braunstein at:

Website: www.heartnicity.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Heartnicity/

The path of heart exercise can be downloaded here

If you experiencing a personal crisis help is available by calling Lifeline Australia on 131114 or find resources at https://www.lifeline.org.au/

016 Good sleep is not a luxury | Petrea King

Lack of sleep is not the consequence but the cause of really serious illnesses
— Petrea King -

When I met Petrea at a Quest for Life Foundation retreat I heard her story first hand.  I was amazed that months of meditation in a monastery near Assisi in Italy was paramount in her healing from acute myeloid leukemia as was integrating past trauma.  How fabulous that Petrea is living the life she came here to live and through her vision thousands of people are supported to get back into the driver's seat of life.

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Petrea

We spoke about

  • The impact of being a coper on Petrea’s health
  • The challenge of living with the uncertainty of a diagnosis
  • Our responsibility with our bodies and brains
  • The mind being a great servant but appalling master
  • The distinction between having feelings but not being the feeling
  • Our first or essential nature is who we are
  • Learning from others and our bodies
  • The opportunity about coming back to the present
  • The need for deep levels of replenishing sleep
  • Learning how to let go both during the day and when we fall asleep
  • A conducive environment to sleep
  • Building a practice of reflecting on the day and any unfinished “business”
  • Practical ideas for supporting you to get better sleep
  • Creating the ritual around the last hour before you go to bed
  • Being able to incorporate in noise as what is
  • How retreats at Quest for Life support people get back in charge of what’s going on
  • Managing all the D’s in life
  • Finding out what it is to live your life on purpose
  • Good sleep is a foundation for wellbeing

Value Quotes

“I’d been putting a lot of emotions down for a very long time and not dealing with them”

“I had my life all packed up in this suitcase ready for the big trip then the plane got cancelled”

“Sleep is a huge issue for everyone in those circumstances”

“Being in right relationship with your body, your mind and your feelings”

“Learn not to take your own life quite so personally”

“Recognise you have a body that you are not your body but you have a body and you do need to nourish it appropriately”

“You have a brain and you need to quieten it down on a regular basis”

“Keep your brain in good company”

“You want to manage your mind and not be managed by your mind”

“You have feelings and recognising that this is not who I am but it is what I am feeling”

“If we can stay with our essential nature then we have more sense of the unity and interconnectedness of life”

“The present moment can become a wonderful refuge from the internal suffering that our mind can bring to our circumstance”

“If you get a good night’s sleep almost everything looks better the next day”

“Many of us are not getting our deep levels of replenishing sleep”

“When we are restless in some way we may never arrive at that deep sleep level or if we do we don’t stay there long enough to really experience the benefits”

“If you go to sleep during the relaxation or at the end of the relaxation you go straight into your deep sleep which would otherwise take you several hours to arrive at”

“Create a sacred space where you can just be with yourself on a daily basis and internally declutter yourself”

“That reviewing time can save a lot of misery in the future because it gives you time to reflect on what has been for the day rather than thinking about it at 10pm when you climb into bed or never thinking about it which means things will begin to fall through the cracks”

“The more tired you get the more likely things are to fall through the cracks and that’s not a good way to run your business or to run your life”

“It’s building in these rituals so that your brain recognises that these are the rituals that I utilise before I go to sleep”

“You need to utilise all of these rituals in the hour before you go to bed”

“Make an absolute commitment to yourself that you don’t think things through in the middle of the night”

“Get back into the driver’s seat of life so you no longer feel a victim in the circumstance of life”

“A deep call from within yourself to get into right relationship with yourself”

”Live the life that you came here to live”

“Be a living demonstration of life unfolding through us and playing the part that we came here to play”

If you got value from this episode if you have not yet done so please Subscribe, Rate and Review on iTunes or Stitcher. You can follow the instructions here.  If you know someone else that would get value from this episode as well please share it with them.

Until next time fabulous podcast listener, I’m Bev and I invite you to live the fab life with me now!

Episode Links

You can find Petrea at:

Website: www.questforlife.com.au

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/QuestforLifeAus/

Sleeptember® Events

1) Sleep Beyond Belief will resolve the problem of feeling stressed out and instead we will be tapping out! Let's tap out your stress so you can Sleep Beyond Belief!

2) Stress Sleep and your Brain will solve the connection and missing links between your energy, your emotional health and your vitality. Get your natural high right here by connecting Stress Sleep and your Brain

3) Six Steps to Healthy Weight and Vitality will eliminate overwhelm and have you take back control. A simple plan to carve out time for yourself while still keeping up with your work and family commitments. Let go of the angst with 6 Steps to Healthy Weight and Vitality

013 Never going back | Samantha Jerrett

I didn’t know how good I could feel and I don’t want to not feel this good
— Samantha Jerrett -

We have been working together for the last 6 weeks and the transformation to Samantha Jerrett's sleep challenge is in her words phenomenal and she never wants to go back to how it was. It is extraordinary what we perceive to be normal for us until something disrupts our thinking and we realise the impact on our daily lives. A lack of quality sleep is one of those things.


Inspire yourself with these insights from Samantha’s journey

We spoke about

  • The challenge Samantha had falling asleep from her pre-teens

  • Acceptance that being tired was normal

  • Impact on her mood and mothering her daughter

  • Getting out of bed being really hard

  • Not realising how much of a problem this was

  • What she tried to resolve her sleep problem

  • Actions Samantha is now taking consistently

  • The positive effects in such a short time

  • The need to take consistent action even when faced with obstacles

  • Level of effort required

  • The role of accountability and insight

  • Keeping it simple and rebuild new sleep habits

Value Quotes

"Getting out of bed was really hard"

"I was just so tired I couldn’t get going"

"Tried going to bed earlier but just lay there longer"

"When I realised how good I could feel that made me really stick with it and change it from there"

"Tea is my comfort so to limit that has helped as well as I didn’t realise how much of an effect that was having"

"I just don’t feel so yucky"

"I would normally spend 3, 4, 5 hours in bed wasting time and now I just go to sleep"

"It’s not about being perfect it’s about being consistent"

"I couldn’t believe how insanely simple all the little things you suggested were"

"What I was doing wasn’t working so I’ve got to do something else"

"Putting it down on paper just brought a lot of things to light"

"I didn’t know how good I could feel and I don’t want to not feel this good"

If you got value from this episode if you have not yet done so please Subscribe, Rate and Review on iTunes or Stitcher. You can follow the instructions here.  If you know someone else that would get value from this episode as well please share it with them.

Until next time fabulous podcast listener, I’m Bev and I invite you to live the fab life with me now!

Episode Links

You can find out more about Sleeptember® by heading to www.sleeptember.com.au

Sleeptember® Events

1) Sleep Beyond Belief will resolve the problem of feeling stressed out and instead we will be tapping out! Let's tap out your stress so you can Sleep Beyond Belief!

2) Stress Sleep and your Brain will solve the connection and missing links between your energy, your emotional health and your vitality. Get your natural high right here by connecting Stress Sleep and your Brain

3) Six Steps to Healthy Weight and Vitality will eliminate overwhelm and have you take back control. A simple plan to carve out time for yourself while still keeping up with your work and family commitments. Let go of the angst with 6 Steps to Healthy Weight and Vitality